Okay, there was an anonymous review about halfway down the page that I would like to respond to in your defense, as I am greatly enjoying your story.
Hermione asked Ron for something SMALL and he couldn't give it--I don't see how thats selfish on her part. And Harry went away to find himself as well--and I don't see that as selfish either. It's not in Hermiones control that her life in California ended up going someplace--although she SHOULD have stayed in touch.
As for their response to her behavior--THEY LOVE HER. You aren't friends for that long without the ability to forgive one another. OF COURSE, they stand by her--especially Harry who seems to have a soft spot for his best friend.
I must say I'm enjoying your story imensely and I urge you to ignore flames that don't appreciate the work you've done.
Can't wait for an update.